Well, I'm still single but certainly had an entertaining time sampling the selection Jozi chose for me. Not that her picking out men guaranteed I'd meet "the one," but it did certainly broaden my horizons...for a minute or two.
Now, in retrospect Jozefina's analysis of the guys who a) messaged me, b) were "matched" with me (OK Cupid's matching mechanism is all bullshit, by the way), or c) she deemed worthy of my presence, did at least provided some entertaining enough critiques to dedicate an entire blog to.
So here's to Jozefina and the time and effort she put in helping a friend out with her dating conundrum. Also, I hope this provides insight and wisdom to any of the fellas reading this blog on what to write in your profile, what note to write, how to message a gal...and ultimately to learn to spell check.
And here we start...
March 23: "So I recommend continuing to chat with the 2 male respondents from the chats we initiated. As for the new men that just contacted you - spartan is a no as he is 23; really2011 has two kids and looks a bit big but may be a nice guy - perhaps a response at least is warranted. I would reply for sure to just_jeffdean. The final man was too short (5'7) so we must eliminate him altogether."
March 26: "H hotspur is a yes, please reply to him for now. He does not look bad and seems like a nice person. He shaved his head for his mom who's undergoing chemo! Thermoman is a no. He is only 5 8 and has a 12 year old, plus looks cheesy. About to send a wink to dcedindc - he recycles and likes twilight"
VF Comments: Notice the first trend developing here. Single girls are often times turned off by men with kids. Not every girl is the same, but frankly if there are kids, there is still an ex somewhere in the equation, and this we steer clear of. Also, girls kinda like guys that are into Twilight and Harry Potter. It may mean you have a creative mind and are probably good with kids (i.e. nieces and nephews). Just make sure to restrict your profile should any of your guy friends be looking for reasons to give you hell.
March 28: "Emale2009 seems like a loser and does not have a profile picture - don't respond. Ribbit1015 does not seem like your type at all but he is tall and artistic and also emailed you with a cool question. So if I were you, I'd at least reward a cool question with a response but you don't have to go out with him. So hokies4u would not be an enthusiastic yes. This is because frankly I do not think you would find him attractive. My sister and mom agree."
April 2: "Ajm218 seems like a nice and down to earth guy. I think he is a bit overweight so physically you may not be into him. I would reply at least for now. Absolut seems okay - not too argumentative but I can see you two getting into fights. I do not like at all that he says guys who genuinely like to dance are gay - how narrow minded."
VF Comments: It's always good to know in advance if you may have a potential conflict with a person. Friends have a way of knowing their friends' fiery tempers may get them into trouble. Jozi did an excellent job of pointing out the one guy who I'd fight with. In hindsight she was right. I shouldn't have emailed him back. He did pick a few stupid fights over OK Cupid. Republican, I think.
April 5: "mattacalous - He completely misspelled several words and is not cute - do not reply"
VF Comments: Boys, spelling is very important. You're obviously using a computer to type this up. Open up a second internet window and Google any words you're not sure about. It pays off. Stupid is not sexy.
April 7: "Jay is my name - seems like a cute guy and went through the trouble of writing a nice long email. Please respond to him. konut26 - not hot at all. Ignore."
VF Comments: ha ha ha!
April 18: "Specialagentutah - he does not look that hot but he sent you a very nice message and has a dog - all pluses. You should at least respond for now. Msp7920 - a military guy who is slightly overweight and misspells his message - no. Enrapturer - only 26, sends totally weird message that is pretending to be funny, and is unattractive - no."
VF Comments: Sorry, but being unattractive does put guys at an disadvantage. But frankly, I believe it's all Darwinism.
So in conclusion, online dating has it's ups and downs, whether you're picking out the guys or someone else is. But in reality it's not a bad way to meet someone. To be honest, even the guys we meet at bars we also know very little about except for what they tell us on the onset. So, I'm continuing the online dating and keeping the blogs coming.
Until next time.
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