Considering America’s recent fascination with the “erotica” series titled “50 Shades of Grey,” I’m wondering if some clever men out there are spicing up their otherwise lame profiles with some S&M for shits and giggles, or if they really are looking for - and anticipate finding - their perfect dom-sub relationship online.
Let me begin with saying that I, like the multitude of curious women in the USA, picked up “50 Shades of Grey.” The marketing behind this book was extraordinary. Sex sells.
What was less-than-extraordinary was the writing. Granted, I hadn't anticipated enveloping myself in a great literary masterpiece, but I can honestly say that the “Twilight” series was far more eloquently written than “50 Shades.”
In any case, libidos have been thrown into overdrive due to the popularity of the book, and the dominance-submission (a.k.a dom-sub) theme has taken off. Therefore I would like to dedicate this next post to those men who have the [silver] balls to make this theme the main emphasis of their OK Cupid profile!
Meet “Cdom.”* I’ll be honest. He’s hot. Gorgeous, in fact. So cute that I’m thinking this guy must be using Abercrombie and Fitch photos to get our attention. He gets right to the point:
"I think it is important for the sake of compatibility, so I am leading with this: as it turns out, I prefer to be somewhat Dominant in the bedroom. So yeah. There it is. I just wrote that, just put it right out there lol. :)
But seriously, becoming aware of this fact has been a somewhat recent phenomenon. I will say that after doing a little research into this, I am most definitely on the lighter side of the spectrum--that much is very clear (also clear: NOT to google "Dominance/submission"!) So, I am not interested in anything that causes actual pain--causing someone real pain is not, in any way, cool to me. But I do have a strong interest in dominant scenarios (tied hands can be so very sexy), dominant positions (kneeling can be so very hot), dominant and dirty talk, etc...
Ok, so I'm going to continue to climb out on a limb here (I guess if I can't be up-front here, where can I be?): I am hoping to find one secure, sexy, and intelligent woman who wants to explore her submissive side. So, yeah, I just wrote that too... and I have to admit that this whole thing feels oddly liberating lol. And to be clear: this is NOT something I would want to do every time. But, I am fully aware that my partner will HAVE to be both truly sexually adventurous as well as genuinely intrigued by this type of sexual dynamic in order for our relationship to work.
And you know I am not trying to offend anyone with this. At all. So if I happen to do so, I apologize in advance--I am merely looking for my match, just like everyone else on here!
Anyway, if my profile has caught your attention, I hope to hear from you. We can figure out a day and time to meet for coffee, and see how things are in person; maybe take a day or two to think about it, and go from there. If we then decide we want to hold hands, close our eyes, and jump in--so be it. I am looking for a relationship, NOT a one-time thing; exploring this would take time... :)"
How’s that for honest? Wow, right? I betcha he’s got the contract drafted and everything for that lucky sub.
Next is “rmike”* Another cute guy on OK Cupid. What’s up with all the hotties being sexual deviants?
"In grad school and pretty busy, but always had an interest in bondage so looking for someone to practice tying up. Not looking for sex, as weird as that sounds, just some fun bondage play. If this is potentially interesting to you, let me know! I'd love to chat with ya and we can see if we make things work.
An yes, otherwise I'm a totally normal guy...just happen to have an odd interest. Other interests include trying new restaurants, traveling, sitting on a beach, and watching football. A pretty laid back person in general.
An yes, I realize I have no pics on here.... but talk to me a bit and I will show you what I look like."
My favorite thing about this profile is how he so coolly goes from “I’m in grad school, pretty busy” straight into “always had an interest in bondage” in the same breath. In the first breath, in fact. He mentions at least two more times on his full profile that he’s “pretty normal.” But then again, who’s to judge what’s “normal” in the online dating world anymore.
So in a nutshell, these are the most good looking, interesting - and at the same time terrifying - suitors I’ve come across this summer.
I wonder, should I have read the entire "50 Shades of Grey" trilogy to prepare me for might come next...?
*Names are almost the same, but I have left off the numerical value just so as to not blow up these guys’ spots completely.